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Masculine And Feminine Energy In Relationships

Posted on by Lauren McEachran

Masculine and feminine energy naturally show up in all of us, regardless of gender or background. These energies shape the ways we connect with others, especially in romantic relationships. Over time, I have found that getting a sense of these dynamics can make relationships feel more connected and supportive. This article looks at what masculine and feminine energy mean, how they work in relationships, and shares tips on building better balance and harmony.

Illustration of yin and yang shapes, representing the balance of complementary energies.

What Are Masculine and Feminine Energies?

Masculine and feminine energy come from psychology and philosophy. They do not depend on biological gender, but part of the yin and yang of the world, the balance, where nothing is one-sided. Everyone carries both energies, but people might feel at home expressing one more than the other. Masculine energy tends to be action oriented, confident, and focused. Feminine energy leans toward being nurturing, intuitive, and open.

Having access to both energies helps me adapt to different places and people. For instance, I rely on masculine energy to tackle tough problems or to make the first move, while feminine energy supports me when I need to pause, listen closely or show empathy. In relationships, these energies mix together in unique ways based on each person’s personality and approach.

Masculine Energy: Leading With Action

Masculine energy often means taking charge, moving forward, and setting a direction. When I think of masculine energy, I see someone who knows what they want and happily takes the initiative. In a relationship, this might show up as planning a date or being the one who sparks an important conversation.

  • Initiative: Taking action rather than waiting for someone else.
  • Protectiveness: Wanting to offer security and stability for a partner.
  • Independence: Feeling confident making decisions and meeting challenges head-on.

Respect is a huge need for people who relate most with masculine energy. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, who wrote Love & Respect, points out that many men feel their best when respected by their partners. Respect does not mean ignoring your own needs. Instead, it is about showing appreciation for a partner’s strengths and efforts, and acknowledging what they bring to the relationship.

Feminine Energy: Receptivity and Nurturing

Feminine energy puts the spotlight on openness, care, and receptivity. People with strong feminine energy are often present and tuned in, expressing love through selfcare and nurturing. Instead of fighting for control, they create a setting of warmth, trust, and emotional openness that makes others feel welcome and encouraged.

  • Receptivity: Letting in affection, help, and good things from a partner.
  • Empathy: Easily picking up on others’ feelings and responding with care.
  • Loving Presence: Making home a safe and supportive place to grow.

The wish to feel cherished and loved is at the core of feminine energy. This echoes Dr. Eggerichs’s findings, too. Seeing that living with joy and authenticity attracts healthier relationships. From that, make it a point to focus on your own happiness and values, which can bring the right people into your life more naturally.

Practical Advice for Women

Living with feminine energy does not mean taking a back seat or keeping quiet. I can join in conversations and activities, while still allowing my partner to step forward in their way. A mix of effort and openness brings out the strengths in both people.

  • Show clear interest, but resist the urge to chase or stretch yourself too far to please someone. There has to be equal give and take.
  • Spend time on hobbies, interests and friendships that make you feel alive and fulfilled.
  • Trust your gut when something does not feel right, and listen if you feel drained or unappreciated in a relationship.
  • Practice empathy and keep communication open, but remember it is not your job to fix every problem.

In my own life, I have noticed that doing all the work in a relationship leads to exhaustion and sometimes feeling invisible. Trusting in my own happiness and not over controlling the process works better for drawing in healthy relationships.

Practical Advice for Men

Masculine energy stands out when actions are clear and purposeful. I notice that confidence and intention foster trust. If a man is interested, reach out to that person, make concrete plans, and keep in touch after spending time together. Honesty, too, is a key part of this energy.

  • Ask directly for a date using words instead of hints, showing real interest and clarity.
  • Check in often to show you value the other person’s time and company and keep the conversation flowing on both sides, by answering questions and asking questions.
  • If you are not interested, say so gently rather than fading away. Say something like it’s not feeling right, but you still wish them well for the future.
  • If things are going well, the man should be able to step up and ask for a commitment, or at least find out how the other person is feeling. If it feels right, you will both want to be exclusive.
  • By the man stepping up and asking the woman to be exclusive, affirms his masculine energy by giving him a sense of ownership and responsibility for the relationship as well as lets him feel like he’s “won” her through his efforts. She gets to feel chosen and valued, shows his emotional investment, builds mutual respect and shows that the relationship is important to the man.

These steps show respect both for your own feelings and for your partner’s. Being upfront and reliable lays the groundwork for safety and trust so that the relationship can grow and thrive.

Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships

Finding a comfortable blend of masculine and feminine energy with your partner matters as much as getting to know your own patterns. Some couples thrive with clear role distinctions, where one leads more and the other prefers responding. Others enjoy mixing up these roles depending on the situation. This balance comes from ongoing communication and making sure both partners feel seen, heard and cared for.

  • Women: Pair actions, like joining new social events or trying out an online dating app, with an openness to let people show genuine interest and affection. Also to be honest with who you are and what would be most suited to you.
  • Men: Show self confidence through thought out action and honest communication about feelings and intentions.

Whenever I spot that one type of energy is calling the shots, I change my approach. So when you’re dating, If you’re giving too much but not getting much back, pull back and focus on selfcare and your own journey. This allows the other person to step up as well and make time to catch up. On the flip side, if you are hanging back and waiting for things to happen, try to step forward in small ways to show you care or make recommendations for time together.

Communication and Honesty

Healthy relationships thrive on honest, respectful talk which can be difficult in the beginning if you’re not wanting to hurt the other person’s feelings. Make a conscious effort to spell out what you like and what you need from a partner. If you are keen on someone, come out and say it rather than forcing them to guess. If something feels off, be honest and let the other person move forward as they deserve a happy and loving relationship as well.

  • Sharing feelings openly tells your partner where you stand and builds trust.
  • Address tension or mixups quickly so resentment does not take root.
  • Avoid ghosting or leaving people wondering. Treat others as you wish to be treated, even when things are ending. Always let them know and wish them the best for the future.

In my experience, being open from the start sets a tone of mutual respect. It gives both people a sense of safety, which makes it much easier to talk about the things that matter most.

Common Challenges and How to Work Through Them

Sometimes, one partner may slip into a role that feels forced or out of character. This used to happy to me where I had ended up in situations where it felt like everything fell on my shoulders, leading to frustration. Open conversation about how each person wants to move forward and show up in the relationship can make all the difference. Being honest can be difficult, but even if the other person doesn’t appreciate it immediately, they will later on.

  • Overfunctioning: Doing everything yourself can feel overwhelming and lead to burnout. Step back from time to time and let things unfold on their own and also allow the other person to show their interest too.
  • Underfunctioning: Not participating or investing enough can create distance between partners. If you find yourself drifting, make an effort to reconnect with small gestures or honest communication.
  • Misunderstanding Roles: Every relationship is different. What works for one couple may not fit another. True balance is about each person’s needs rather than fitting a mold, but they should both be contributing equally.

How to Spot When Balance Is Off

Check in with yourself regularly to see whether you feel appreciated and energized, or if you are feeling unnoticed or drained. These gut feelings are real signals about uneven energy balance. When things feel off, open conversation and a willingness to tweak things can help to get harmony back on track or at least show you where the other person stands.

FAQs: Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships

What if I am a woman with strong masculine energy?
You absolutely can approach relationships in a way that celebrates your drive and style. Pay attention to what feels natural for you and check that you feel respected. It is much more important to be honest about your needs and find someone who values your confidence, instead of forcing yourself into a box. Also remember, it’s good to bring to a relationship something the other person doesn’t have. So if you want a man with good masculine energy, then you need to try to show your feminine side so he will want to do things for you too and feel valued doing that, as most women with strong masculine energy will want to be in control of nearly everything.

Do these ideas work for same sex couples?
Yes. Masculine and feminine energies do not depend on gender at all. In any partnership, either person might play out one energy more at different times, or swap roles as things evolve. The aim is always about building mutual respect and staying close, no matter what that looks like for your relationship.

How can I bring more balance to my relationships?
Spend time figuring out what lifts you up and what leaves you feeling drained. Be willing to share these insights with your partner, so you can support each other better. Depending how masculine or feminine you want to feel in the relationship. For example, I wanted a man to be more masculine to have the confidence to ask me out and take initiative with things. Also to be seen as strong and able to protect me if needed, so that meant that I needed to show my feminine side to him. I can still take care of myself, but I know he’ll have the confidence to have my back when needed.

Wrapping Up

Masculine and feminine energy are both eye-catching tools for building relationships filled with meaning and joy. By knowing both sides and showing up clearly for your potential partner, builds more balance and rewarding connections. Whether you take action or have a nurturing presence, I know that honoring both energies will keep your relationship strong and satisfying.

Usually a woman with strong masculine energy may attract a man with more feminine energy to balance it out, otherwise two strong masculine energies may create more conflict. Same with a man with strong masculine energy will usually attract a woman with strong feminine energy. Try being more aware of these energies when you’re dating or in a relationship and see if you can notice what energy the man feels good portraying and which energy the woman feels good portraying.

Defining What You Want In A Relationship

Posted on by Lauren McEachran

In any relationship, having a clear picture of what you want can be a game-changer. This involves diving deep into what truly matters to you, going beyond surface-level notions like attraction or convenience. The reality is, if you’re not sure about your relationship goals, you might end up in situations that don’t really serve what you’re looking for or a lot of heartache.

Self-awareness plays a massive role here. Recognizing what you value and what you can’t compromise on allows you to approach relationships with a straighter line instead of bouncing between uncertainties. This clarity reinforces your confidence and helps in making decisions that are in line with your true self.

Misunderstandings in relationships often stem from unsaid expectations or conflicting goals. When you know what you want, these misunderstandings are less likely to occur, because you’ve already set the stage for open, honest communication with potential partners. Communicating openly about your desires and boundaries can significantly reduce conflicts and create a healthier dynamic.

There are real benefits to this approach. Just consider the stories of couples who’ve found long-term satisfaction because they took the time to align their goals and preferences upfront. Whether through real-life stories or data from relationship experts, the message is clear: clarity is a strong foundation for any successful partnership.

Taking the time to understand your relationship goals and communicating them effectively not only enriches your partnerships but also paves the way for a more fulfilling life journey together. It’s about building a relationship where both partners not only support each other’s dreams but also actively participate in achieving them.

Crafting Your Personal ‘What I Want’ List

Everyone’s got their own set of wants, needs, and desires when it comes to relationships. But how many of us have actually sat down and figured it out? Crafting your personal ‘what I want’ list isn’t just a helpful exercise; it’s essential for finding a partner who truly aligns with you. The first step is to carve out some personal time to reflect on your emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual needs. Each of these areas plays a role in how satisfied you’ll be in a relationship.

For some, emotional needs might include wanting a partner who is supportive and understanding. Others might prioritize intellectual conversations or shared spiritual values. These aren’t just random thoughts swirling in your head; documenting them gives you a clearer map of what you’re seeking.

Cultural influences can also shape your relationship desires in subtle or not-so-subtle ways. Whether it’s Religion, family expectations, media portrayal of relationships, or societal norms, understanding how these factors play into what you want can provide valuable insights.

Putting all this together, along with reflecting on past relationship experiences, can guide you in crafting a tailored list of priorities. Remember, this isn’t set in stone. It’s a living document that can evolve as you grow and change. But starting the list clarifies who you are today and what you need from a relationship to feel fulfilled.

Understanding Non-Negotiables: The Key to Lasting Satisfaction

When it comes to relationships, non-negotiables are those unyielding core values or deal-breakers you can’t compromise on. They form the backbone of what makes a relationship sustainable and satisfying in the long run. Identifying these non-negotiables involves reflecting deeply on what you truly need from your partner to be content.

The first task is separating wants from genuine non-negotiables. While you might want a partner who shares your love of board games, a non-negotiable might be mutual respect or honesty. These are fundamental needs without which the relationship would likely falter.

Common examples of non-negotiables include honesty, fidelity, financial responsibility, or shared life goals like wanting children. It’s crucial to understand these are deeply personal and can look different for everyone. They should reflect your own life principles and future expectations.

Once you’ve figured out your deal-breakers, communicating them effectively is key. Having clear, open discussions about non-negotiables ensures you’re on the same page with a partner. It’s not about laying down ultimatums, but about sharing your foundational needs that support a healthy lasting relationship.

Being upfront about what you can’t compromise on can save you both heartache down the line. It’s about finding someone whose core values align with yours, providing a solid platform for a thriving partnership.

Building a Solid Foundation: Why Knowing What You Want Matters

Knowing what you want in a relationship isn’t just some introspective exercise; it’s a way to lay down a strong foundation that supports a meaningful and fulfilling partnership. When you have a clear understanding of your needs and desires, you’re better equipped to communicate openly, which plays a significant role in maintaining healthy interactions with a partner.

Self-knowledge leads to better communication. When you’re confident about what you need, expressing those needs becomes more straightforward. In turn, this clarity fosters an environment of trust and respect between partners, making it easier to work through any challenges that might arise.

Navigating societal pressures can be tricky. From societal norms to peer pressures, family pressure, external influences often tell us what we should want in a relationship. Staying true to your own needs requires courage, but it paves the way for relationships that genuinely satisfy you, rather than ones that simply tick boxes. Then keep what you want to yourself and don’t share it with anyone. Sharing it takes away it’s power as you might find you need to explain what you want what you want and they may disagree. This is your life though and only you know what matters most to you!

What’s more, having clearly defined goals and desires makes the journey of a relationship far more rewarding. It allows both partners to actively participate in realizing shared dreams, contributing to a deeper and more satisfying connection. Understanding what you want isn’t just about selecting the right partner; it’s about empowering yourself to build the life and relationship you truly deserve.

Valentine’s Day Short Introduction To My Story

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Hi everyone!

I wanted to share my story this Valentine’s Day in 2025 for those of you who are still single and frustrated.  I’ve been there too before I had a loving partner, I used to be single and frustrated too on Valentine’s Day.  So enjoy being single if you’re ready and determined to manifest your lasing loving partner this year, as this is your year!

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Think You’re Needy When Dating Someone

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Emotional neediness can sometimes feel like a negative trait when dating. It’s about constantly seeking reassurance or approval from your partner, often stemming from deeper personal insecurities or past experiences. This behavior could face societal judgment, labeling one as high maintenance, but it’s crucial to understand it’s more about unmet emotional needs or unresolved issues.

People often feel needy in relationships due to reasons like low self-esteem, fear of being alone, or previous relationship trauma. They need validation that they are needed and wanted in the relationship or when dating. These factors can lead to over-dependence on a partner, overshadowing the healthy independence usually required for a balanced relationship.

I didn’t realise I was being needy with Michael, until I felt it was too late where I had already sent multiple text messages and voicemail. I still felt independent though and happy to be on my own and was loving my job at the time. His reaction to it shocked me though, when he did everything he could to get to me, bring me flowers and say he was sorry and that he wanted to fulfil that need I had.

Neediness can take a toll on both partners, putting stress on the relationship. It isn’t just about endless texting or wanting constant company; it can shift into feeling overly possessive or anxious when apart. Recognizing these behavioral patterns early can help address them before they deepen. Michael was quick to address it and we ended up both discussing it in a way where it would work for both of us.

Self-awareness plays a key role here. Try to take a step back when you feel these needy impulses creeping in. Ask yourself what triggers them and dig deeper into understanding these feelings. From there, you can start working towards a more secure attachment style, which balances closeness and independence in a way that feels both comfortable and healthy for you and your partner.

When you have the right partner, they will understand and want to work with you to fulfil that need. Here is a short video I did explaining it a little bit:

By understanding and identifying these neediness triggers, you can work towards not just managing these feelings but using them for personal growth within the relationship and talking it through with your partner.

Cultivating Emotional Independence: Strategies for Healthier Relationships

Building emotional independence will help to develop healthier, more balanced relationships and it starts off with self-awareness. By recognizing and understanding your own needs and feelings, you’ll be better equipped to manage them without relying solely on your partner for emotional fulfillment. Maybe it’s a need you can fulfil yourself?

Self-esteem plays an important role in emotional independence. Notice how you talk to yourself and make a conscious effort to boost your self-image. Positive affirmations and celebrating small victories in your life can gradually build a strong sense of self-worth. It’s about being your own cheerleader and not solely depending on your partner’s approval.

Setting personal boundaries is another crucial step. Know your limits in terms of emotional availability and ensure you communicate these to your partner. Clear boundaries help prevent feelings of overwhelm or regret, keeping the relationship healthy and respectful.

Balance also means finding value in your alone time. Pursuing hobbies or interests outside the relationship not only enriches your life but also brings fresh energy into the partnership. Regularly engaging in activities that bring you joy can reinforce your sense of self, making you feel more grounded and less inclined to cling to your partner.

Personal growth isn’t a solo journey, especially when you’re in a relationship. Encourage your partner to embark on this journey with you. Share your individual growth outcomes to inspire each other. By doing this, both of you can learn to support each other’s independence and still cherish the unique bond you share.

Tapping into insights from what I’ve shared and my video content, means you can find practical steps and real-life examples to further solidify your resolve and navigate the road to independence with confidence. Remember, the goal is thriving together but also individually, which creates a solid foundation for any partnership.

10 Year Wedding Anniversary

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Ten years of marriage feels like a blink and a lifetime all at once. Hitting that 10-year mark is something special, right? It’s about revisiting the highs, learning from the lows, and everything in between. To make this milestone even more memorable, Bali was the perfect choice. We decided to go back to the place where we got married and stay a bit longer. We also wanted to go back to Nusa Lembongan as we had loved it there too 10 years ago when we had our honeymoon there.

Husband found the Samabe Bali Suites & Villas special celebration options and it was like stumbling upon a hidden gem. Their Power of Love package promised a mix of intimacy, luxury and one of a kind romantic dinner in a cave on the beach, which was exactly what we wanted to celebrate our journey, as it was unique. A place where every sunset feels like it’s just for you, and every moment spent feels like a page from a fairytale when the cave is decorated with lights.

We didn’t just want to relive old memories; it was about honoring how far we’d come. H2O Videoworks made that easy. These folks worked magic at our wedding and revisiting them was like meeting old friends who just get it. Capturing the energy, joy, and love we felt—once again, they exceeded expectations and delivered memories we’ll cherish.

We were also very honoured to receive a special song by Shanalee. She created a special tune just for us, a melody that wrapped our memories in a beautiful bow. It was more than a song; it embodied the essence of our decade-long love story.

Celebrating this anniversary wasn’t just marking a date on the calendar. It was about appreciating the journey, embracing the stories we’ve lived, and looking forward to the ones yet to be written. Love, growth, and memory intertwined in the heart of Bali, offering a beautiful reflection on our shared path.

 

 

The Foundations Of Real True Love Mentoring

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Lauren as a real true love mentor is someone who guides individuals on their journey to attracting and nurturing authentic, deep, and meaningful romantic relationships.

Lauren enjoys sharing what she has learned herself over the years with manifesting and the law of attraction. She first learned about the law of attraction through the movie “The Secret”. From there, she was desperate to learn if she had her own soulmate and real true love after a relationship with a guy who wouldn’t love her and she was trying everything to get him to love her.

From that, she learned a lot about relationships through lots of books, relationship experts online newsletters, ebooks, audios and webinars. She learned from Dr John Demartini, Dr Joe Vitale, Dr Wayne Dwyer,

This type of mentor helps people discover and embrace the principles of love, self-worth, and healthy relationship dynamics, ensuring that the love they seek is genuine, lasting, and aligned with their values.

Key aspects of being a real true love mentor means using Lauren’s guidance to include:

  1. Self-discovery and self-love: They help individuals understand the importance of loving and accepting themselves before they can attract a fulfilling relationship. This often involves exploring past traumas, insecurities, or limiting beliefs about love.
  2. Clarifying relationship desires: A love mentor assists in identifying what a person truly wants and needs in a romantic partner, and helps align their goals and values with this vision.
  3. Attracting healthy relationships: They provide strategies for meeting potential partners who share compatible values and are emotionally available for a real connection. This often involves cultivating positive energy, confidence, and authenticity.
  4. Setting boundaries and communication: A mentor teaches how to maintain healthy boundaries and foster open, honest communication in relationships, creating a foundation for trust and respect.
  5. Navigating dating challenges: The mentor can offer advice on handling rejection, avoiding unhealthy patterns, and making informed decisions about potential partners.

A real true love mentor often combines practical advice with emotional or spiritual wisdom to guide their mentees in creating deep and lasting romantic connections.

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Are You Wondering: “What is a Mind Movie?”

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I’m sure you have heard of them, most likely through the book or movie “The Secret” where they relate to the law of attraction.  I have created my own mind movie and had success with attracting what I wanted.

So I wanted to go through in more detail of a mind movie, so others could use it to get what they want too.

What is a Mind Movie?

A mind movie will include pictures, music and affirmations of what you want in life or what you want to attract.  It’s like a vision board, but as a short movie. If it’s just personal to you, then any pictures off the internet and any song you like will work well.  If you want to share it online though, you will need to be careful of copyright laws around the pictures and music.

This means that if you want to post or share it online, you will need to use your own pictures and music.  Another option could be to purchase royalty free pictures and music or get permission from the original owners of those pictures and music.

Why I Created a Mind Movie

I decided to create a “Mind Movie” to help attract the love of my life.  This is my Love Mind Movie below, where it incorporated the Law of Attraction to help attract my True Love.  This was fun to build and helps to put feel the feeling of already having this that you want.

This started by researching photos that would make me feel good and loved by a partner.  To me, affection was important, so a lot of them show him being affectionate.  I also love to have fun and laugh a lot, so needed to make sure there were a lot of photos of couples laughing together.

Then you think of other things you want to attract to put into the mind movie.  I also love learning from spiritual leaders, so it was important that he would be open to that too and want to work on personal development.  Then you think of and add some affirmations that align with what you want. Make sure you put them in the present tense like they’re already happening or have already happened.

When you put it all together, it should make you feel really good, happy and loved.

I’m so blessed that mine came true.

My Own Love Mind Movie

If you’re just starting out, you might want to start with downloading the free mind movies that they have already created by going HERE

Then you can create more mind movies in line with other things you want in your life.  Have fun with it 🙂